hello Doug my heart goes out to ya buddy . IMO let her go shes isn't thinking of your feelings in all of this and if it didn't occur to her to quit her job (you stated its not a money issue) and try to salvage the relationship then---- off with her head. lol justjoking. You have to do what you feel is best for you. If shes not thinking of you now she never will it will always be about HER. goodluck my friend and please remember
HAPPINESS is the BEST REVENGE!!

DOUG