Hi all, new guy here, I am needing a little bit of advice for my current situation. So here goes the story...

I have been married for a little over 3 years now and with my wife for almost 9 years. However, when we meet we were both young, I was 19 and she was 20. I had not experienced a long-term relationship before meeting her, whereas, she had; she was proposed to before as well. Anyway, we started talking and got close to each other and soon started seeing each other. We both felt like we were meant for one another, soul mates if you will, it was great. We got married about 5 years later.

After about the first year of marriage things seemed like they were going downhill (at least for me). It is like the spark that was there has vanished. We have tried to reignite it, but no luck yet. Not even sex or vacations have proven successful in my eyes. I am also starting to find her traits increasingly annoying, we are polar opposites and really don't have anything in common. We first thought opposites attract and that thought was relative for awhile, but now not so much. I find myself saying "I love you" with nothing behind it, it is almost an empty gesture now. I am simply not happy.

So this now brings us to my current dilemma. I have met this other girl that I find extremely attractive, smart, outgoing, and just a great person. She is a technician at a doctor's office, which is where we met. However, she does not know my feelings towards her. Just from being around her for a short time, we seem to have this deep connection that I just do not share with my wife any longer. I find it so easy to talk to this other girl and I really do want to know more about her, even pursue her perhaps. But, I am not sure if I should tell her or just let it be. I first just brushed it off as infatuation, but now I think about her all the time and believe it could be something deeper

I feel like telling this other girl about my feelings could lead to something greater or disaster. From what I can tell—I am usually oblivious to a girl's flirting and signs—she feels the same as she will go out of her way to talk to me. I do not want to make things awkward between us, but at the same time I really would like to tell her and get this off my chest. I just do not know what to do anymore. Put a fake smile on and go about my life or take a risk and gain/lose everything. Why does life have to be so complicated sometimes? If anyone has experienced a similar situation, please relay your advice. Thanks!


TL;DR: I am no longer in love with my wife and have met another girl, but she does not know my feelings towards her.