I hate to say it but as I read your posting I get the feeling that you really do want to get married and are upset because he does not. My husband was a confirmed bachelor when I met him and never wanted to get married. When our situation changed and we were not geographically close anymore I told him I could not be his friend. He was either going to marry me or forget about me. He needed that push to commit. We've been married for over 35 years.

As for him taking you for granted, the hugs and kisses are hollow acts if you have to ask for them. Try starting to show your appreciation for him by giving him affection, thanking him when he does something for you and pay attention to only him when you are together. He may get the hint and start acting the same way.

If he ignores you and takes you for granted he is treating you like many men treat a wife. Go for the wedding so you get the legal rights along with the other things you gain in a marriage.