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Originally Posted by mulan
It's not a matter of jugdement. I'm pretty sure 95% of the people around my age had done it, it isn't realy a matter of values. Is just I feel realy like a stranger when I am with people that enjoys talking about all the time...I don't mind the jokes, unless they are to agressive. And certainly I would not ask anyone to change because of me.
It feels like I am the one that is wrong. I'm not worried about when my time will comes.
It's just that I'm private about my intimacy, I don't belong to this world, and every single conversation of almost anyone around me seems to end in this topic. And is by sharing this kind of intimacy that make people close with each other. Sometimes it feels like if a person don't want to share his feelings the others perceive the person as a cold one. In fact most of the friendships I know gravitate around talking about guys. I don't mind to hear other girls talk about it.
But I realy think this topic is overshared in away that pulls me apart from any group or any friendship. I enjoy talking about other stuff. It's like that I have to share something on the love, sexual topic all the time to realy become part of a group.
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i'm a little confused as to why you would say you are "wrong"..i just believe you are different, some people are at liberty to discuss their sex lives, you chose not to..i do not believe you are wrong, i do get the opinion it makes you uncomfortable though.
it's perfectly natural to talk about the opposite sex, some feel more comfortable than others. they simply have a different comfort level than you do. if you don't feel inclined to share..i would advise you not to.
consider this.. what you say can and will be used against you in a court of law..and this also holds true in the court of public opinion, if you don't want your "dirty laundry" in the "street" so to speak, i suggest you don't put it there. when the conversation turns to sex..which from what i understand, it inevitably will..hold your silence. sometimes it's best to be a silent observer!
hope this helps
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