>>I can't take Richard to the police because of my stupid sexual hang-ups. I wanted it all kept quiet.

Irregardless of the situation... if you say "no" and he doesn't respect that or doesn't believe it then there is a problem. If he is persistant than you can, and should, call the police. You have a right to your "sexual hangups" (your term ) whatever they may be... and no one in the universe has the right to deny you your wish to be left alone in that regard no matter what the reason.

Hope your visit with Doug goes well.

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