Sophie I am so sad for you. I am not a big fan of mother's day even though I am a mother and have a loving, attentive daughter. But you see, mother's day is never about me being a mother. We are always "required" to go to an exhausting and long winded family gathering at my sister-in-laws house to honor my husband's mother. I sound selfish but I never get to do anything I would like to do. I do care for my mother-in-law but sometimes I would like to just sit home and rest. They always have their family gathering outdoors and this time of year it is 85 to 90 degrees outside where we live and I don't like to spend too much time outside in that kind of heat. It doesn't seem to bother my in-laws. Also, over the years I regret that I didn't do a lot of mother's day activities with my mother. My own mother loved me with all her heart. She passed away four and a half years ago and I still miss her. I think holidays like this are just hard