That's some rough stuff. No help from me, I'm afraid, just appreciation for what you're going through, and thanks for your posting what you did. Unfortunately, some people (men and women) are too touchy-feely for everybody's tastes; it annoys me too, but not to the extent it does for you. I'm just not too great with intimacy and any physical contact, unless under my control, feels unpleasant. (some exceptions, but there's always that little bit of discomfort)