Telling someone they should learn to control their anger is like telling someone they just should just "get ahold of themselves". So you're severely depressed? Crying all day? Haven't bathed in a week? Hey, pull yourself together!!! Just think positive! Whassa matter with you???

I believe that anger is just another symptom of internal problems that need to be worked through. It is more outward directed than, say, depression, but a severely depressed person can do a whole lot of damage to those around them. I don't think anger should be judged more harshly than other acting-out behavior. It's a problem that needs to be fixed. And if a therapist cannot work with a person on this, who can they turn to???????