I am sorry you have lost your t, but as you said, in the first part of the anger, ( im not judging you by the way) but, it was not an outburst or spontaneous, you decided to intimidate her by punching the table and scaring her, to show her you will not be bullied, you even said you saw the fear in her eyes.

So imo she of course had the right for her own safety , even though you did not touch her, to not see you anymore. Therapists can put up and contain alot of clients emotions, does not mean they have to put up with abusive behaviors or threaths that they feel. Im speaking as if I were in her shoes, Im not saying you are an abusive person. Just going by your actions in that room and her reactions.
This does not make the therapist a wimp, or a therapist that cannot handle a client, imo, the therapist, had her boundaries and safety crossed by a client in her oppinion. How much is too much.