Quiet frankly, those of you here who want to blame the therapist are quite appalling in my opinion ... The OP admits that he intentionally tried to intimidate her ... That simply is not okay ... The sooner y'all quit making excuses for his inexcusable behavior the sooner the OP might be able to accept responsibility, find another therapist and find other ways to properly communicate and channel his aggression, anger and outbursts.

By the way, therapists are human beings too, and just because one can and will handle violence and aggression doesn't mean another one can and will ... This doesn't mean that they aren't good, neither does it mean they are not qualified ... It simply means they won't put up with certain behaviors or tolerate BS from a client who thinks they can get away with trying to bully the very people who are trying to help them.