I grew up in a violent, angry house. I feel afraid when I hear loud noises or loud voices. I know what it feels like to be triggered by this.

But to imply that the OP is going to go on and be a man who abuses women seems just very wrong to me. The OP is trying to get help and admits the wrong that was done. (I guess we're all assuming the OP is male too? There are a LOT of violent women out there as well.)

I think the therapist, based on the other things the OP said, sounds slightly incompetent. It seems like ending the therapy relationship is best for both of them.