"So I was ready to forgive her because of all the positive she's done, but asked that she lets me know what her supervisor thinks of this issue. For 10 minutes I asked, she consistently avoided a yes/no answer; thus refusing accountability. So I acted to intimidate her, with a display of force. I punched a table to say - "I will not be bullied". Mistakes I can forgive but I want accountability and a proper apology..

If you can be bothered, let me know what you think. I value your opinions."

So - she wouldn't speak of her (confidential) session with her supervisor, so you punched a table to intimidate her?

If I were in her shoes, you'd have been out of my practice so fast your head would spin. You didn't lose your temper, you were DELIBERATELY trying to coerce her through threat of violence to do something she did not want to do.

You do need another therapist, but you need an anger management group, a therapist whom you cannot physically intimidate, and to do some long, hard looking at yourself to figure out why you think acting as you did leaves her obligated to you in any way.

That was abusive behavior. Period.