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Old May 10, 2014, 06:35 PM
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Originally Posted by watino View Post
You raise a valid point.

I tried to control myself but couldn't and also it was intimidation.
I saw no other way. She had been unjust. She admitted the mistake "I have been blind, sorry we didn't understand each other, etc." but somehow it wasn't enough for me. I felt I deserved a bigger apology.

I was damaged and felt powerless in an unjust situation and defenceless. I displayed my "will to act if provoked" to make a point: you don't get to screw up and harm me.

I used this method reluctantly but thought it was necessary.
Clearly the consequences were undesirable for me and her alike.
Please suggest alternative ways, I would like to learn.
One alternative: you say what you feel. As in, "I would like a bigger apology."

Second alternative: and I suspect this is the root of your problem, as may sometimes be true with people who *choose* to use intimidation and violence to get what they want from other people:

You are not entitled to have what you want from other people. You are not entitled to extract through violence what you want from other people. You can *ask* for what you want and you can accept that you may not always get it.

It may just be that the less you demand from others, the more you will get what you want.
Thanks for this!
rainboots87, watino