I have given her many chances to talk about problems and have recommended ways to get help if she is depressed. When her problems start to affect my family life and make us miserable, I just had enough. If you read from past posts of mine you will understand better maybe. I am not the answer to her problems or happiness and her behavior resembled that of a stalker than that of a friend. I lost too much sleep because of her intrusive behavior, and I didn't really invite her into my life to begin with. She is married with two kids and has the time to annoy me with calls and snippy messages. I always have things to occupy my time and suggested the same for her to avoind being lonely. I am sure she will find another friend to intrude upon, so i don't feel bad. I do wish it could have ended on a better note with her understanding the role of personality differences between us.