Well, I don't find anything even remotely OK about your husband's behavior. It is emotional abuse and it is NOT all right for him to do these things. Videotaping you and making fun of you when you are hurting isn't funny, let alone helpful, and he needs to stop it!

Perhaps marriage counseling would be in order along with therapy for each of you individually. You both need to understand that his treatment of you is inappropriate, and he needs to learn healthier and less mean ways to cope with your illness. I am hopping mad just reading your posts---if I were there I'd punch him right in the nose. He doesn't get to be an @$$h0le just because he can't deal with your moods.