We don't have a lot of facts about what happened, but we do have an articulated description of intention to intimidate through physically aggressive action. I find it curious that some would say the behavior may be unacceptable--but that somehow the T should tolerate it. Seems contradictory to me.

Given the unknowns, I'm relying on the incident and intentions as described, and making a reasonable assumption that this incident is not the first time the OP has used such a tactic in life (he implies it isn't). I think if someone behaved this way outside therapy, most would not tolerate the behavior. But because the OP seems to express the words of wanting to change, his behavior is somehow to be expected as part of the normal process of therapy.

I put more credibility in actions than expressions of regret, sorrow, or a desire to change. I'm sure this is largely because of my past experience working with victims of domestic violence as a court advocate. The pattern of thinking, and the language of wanting to explore the issue, wanting suggestions of alternative behaviors, but within the rhetoric of a justification of beliefs, is very familiar to me. I'm not saying that the OP will become an abuser of women; I'm saying his thinking in concert with his behavior shows an abusive pattern. I don't necessarily doubt his belief in his sincerity; but until he's also willing to challenge his beliefs through appropriate treatment, I don't believe therapy will be effective.