I think the term transference is used pretty loosely in general. We tend to use it interchangeably with attachment, which I don't see as the same thing and I don't think it really matters. Is that what you mean when you say "general transference"? I don't see transference in the true analytic sense as what your T is promoting here. I think she is focusing on the relationship though and spending significant time trying to build one. In clients with Aspergers (and forgive me if I'm wrong but I thought this was suspected or part if your dx), this is important but can take much longer than with the average client. In some it may never happen at a deep level.

Many Ts (like CBT or DBT) don't give much thought to "transference" but do understand the importance building a relationship. So I think it is always a good thing to at least make an earnest attempt. It's the only way to build trust, and I don't see how you could progress at all without that trust.