Urgh, this thread has disgusted me.

If I was the therapist in this equation, I would have terminated too. Not because I scare easily - far from it - but men who are violent towards women make me physically sick. I just could not hold you in positive regard as my client, perhaps this therapist feels similar. We are all human and all allowed to have areas that we do not want to work with. Stopdog is being reductionist when she says it is simply a matter of 'butching up' imo.

OP you need therapy and lots of it but NOT from the person that you frightened - that can never work, in the same way that they never, ever recommend couples counselling for relationships where one half is being violent towards the other.