Thanks for your advice all. I have to admit that I gave in a little, but I did add allot of stipulations that I hope will help my brother makes strides to becoming an adult. I think my family tends to feel sorry for my brother b/c he was abused as a kid and is still suffering from depression. My dad doesnt care and even tells him to blow his brains out. I pray that I learn to show him love without codependence. For now, they are looking for other alternatives to borrowing money from me.. which is good.