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So I gave her a week to gather her thoughts. Then I wanted to know if her actions constitute malpractice.
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maybe i'm misunderstanding here but were you asking her if her behavior constituted malpractice? if so, that seems a bit silly to expect her to tell you that. you consult a lawyer or the licensing group she belongs to if you want to know if a T has violated the law.
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Thus I asked politely, then demanded, that she lets me know what her supervisor thinks of this. She avoided the question, for 10 minutes, in different ways.
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as i said before this isn't info you are privy to.
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So I lost my temper. I needed to know: is it safe for me to continue with her or not?So I got mad. I yelled "will you tell me or not ?!" , half stood up, and punched the table.
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this is something YOU had to decide. you can't outsource this decision. you also don't get to bully others into doing what you want.
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Now kindly someone tell me who I should blame here, and I'll accept the situation and work on it, but can't until I know.
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here's how adults deal with life: they each take responsibility for their own part. they do not blame others for their own actions. no one but you is responsible for your trying to intimidate this T and punching the table. she is responsible for probably not being a very competent T. (we're only hearing your side so we can't really know all that happened.) by the way her not giving you info is not in any way bullying. that is withholding behavior. your behavior was bullying. your T was under no obligation to keep seeing you if she felt threatened. that is a personal & case by case decision and there are no hard and fast rules about it. it makes no difference if another T would have handled your punching the table differently. whether or not to keep you on as client after that incident was her call entirely because she felt threatened.
you might want to check out the power and control wheel and see how your behavior stacks up and why a T would feel it wise to terminate therapy with you (click on the image to enlarge it):
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