Sounds like you hope for harmonious relationships. And I know this is possible. There are probably many people who want this too. As you describe your sense of others who take advantage of your caring nature, then realize that it's ok for you to be caring, but also it's ok to be cautious about your finances & generosity. So - perhaps reflect on your pattern of generosity and set some limits on yourself in this aspect, according to your own financial circumstances and be practical.