Hang in there. My stepsister is 13 years older than I am, was a sorority sister, married out of college, had 4 beautiful children, whole nine yards. My stepmother was on my case too as I don't care for makeup, get my hair "styled" (went to the barber shop with my husband last time :-) once every year or two whether it needs it or not :-) etcetera. I live in jeans also and am 56.

You're allowed to have your own preferences. It's unfortunate your family is on your case and you feel you have to change occasionally to get them off it and get a rest from it for a bit :-) I think it will get better for you when you're more off on your own. I didn't fit in with the other girls either, carried my school books like a "boy" (by my side instead of in front of my chest) and other things.