Sunrise, my feeling is you shouldn't let other people's, even your daughter's concerns and wishes take precedence over your own health. Going to a less expensive 2 year college before going to a university would not have to be a problem for your daughter, especially if it concerns your health. It's nice to set goals and nice "neat" ones like the one you have set for your divorce look good on paper but life isn't on paper. Take care of yourself, no matter what! I'm 1000% sure your daughter would rather you were a healthy, happy mom than that she got to go to a 4 year school her first year only to have you and her father not be able to help her afford it the next year and have/because something happen(ed) to you!

There's nothing bad/wrong/mercenary with doing it either way but I think you should put your health and happiness first, especially with the hard work surrounding the divorce (and afterwards!). It would be "nice" for your daughter to get the aid but not as crucial as your being comfortable in your Life's "work" at the moment.