Thanks so much for your supportive replies.

Rose: yes I would like to find a harmonious relationship. My parents argued a lot, I saw how damaging that can be. I think setting limits on generosity is a great idea.

Maria: I understand what you've explained. I felt very strongly about the close friend that I mentioned. I think it's hard sometimes when such a relationship does not develop romantically. I guess it's impossible to predict this kind of thing.