It is odd that you father would let you see him for 10 years and not say anything negative during that time. It looks like if you marry him your parents are not going to be welcoming to say the least. You have to prepare yourself that they may not accept him as your husband and could cause a rift between you and your family. You will have to decide whether you are willing to marry without your parents approval. If your father was that combative, I doubt he will change his mind easily. Good luck to you whatever you decide.