I'm sorry you are in this position. What do you want? Do you want to be a stay-at-home mom or do you want to keep working? Even though you are close to your parents, you are an adult and it's your life to make your decisions and/or your mistakes.

I have been married for 10 years and have two young children and I'm the breadwinner. I knew that was the way it was going to be when I got married. I was mostly okay with it, except for the times my H was laid off and fell into a depression. As long as he is working hard and happy, I don't mind making more money. I too am close to my family and there were times they were frustrated when they felt like my H was being lazy and not contributing. They had a point, but ultimately it was my marriage to work on, not theirs.

As an FYI, working while raising kids is super hard but staying at home full time and raising kids is super hard. As long as they are loved and well taken care of and get quality time with their parents, there is no right or wrong in the mommy wars.