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Originally Posted by Rayne Selene
My boyfriend just became my fiancé. It's been a long time coming, and I love him more than anything in this world, but I'm panicking. I feel like I'm not a whole person. I'm so deeply depressed so much of the time, and so insane during my manic periods. How can I sentence him to a lifetime of dealing with this? And children? How can I raise children? There are so many periods when I can't even take care of myself. I'm so often extremely suicidal. What if one day I can't control it anymore and I hurt myself? How can I do that to my husband and children? I just don't think I'm fit to be a wife and a mother, and I don't know if he understands what he would be taking on by marrying me. How an I do this to him? I"m so afraid  |
If you had diabetes, would you marry and have children? If you were a paraplegic, would you marry and have children? If you had the genes for alcoholism, would you marry and have children? Why should you even hesitate to marry with bipolar disorder? Your children only have a 16% chance of inheriting it from you - and I bet even then, the child who has such a misfortune will be thrilled to have her/his life. You have what most people long for - a loving partner willing to accept you for what you are. Are you familiar with the term "unconditional love?" While it's an ancient saying that
Love conquers all, it couldn't be more true. Love doesn't "see" your disorder; love doesn't demand perfection; love "sees" only into your heart.
If you love him and he loves you - then get on with it. Don't let this bloody illness stand in your way. Don't let life pass you by because of your fears.
Winston Churchill didn't say to the Parliament, "Sorry my distinguished colleages, but because of my bipolar disorder, I don't believe that I'm fit to lead our nation into war against the Nazis." TUFF UP GIRL!