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Originally Posted by outlaw sammy
If you had diabetes, would you marry and have children? If you were a paraplegic, would you marry and have children? If you had the genes for alcoholism, would you marry and have children? Why should you even hesitate to marry with bipolar disorder? Your children only have a 16% chance of inheriting it from you - and I bet even then, the child who has such a misfortune will be thrilled to have her/his life. You have what most people long for - a loving partner willing to accept you for what you are. Are you familiar with the term "unconditional love?" While it's an ancient saying that Love conquers all, it couldn't be more true. Love doesn't "see" your disorder; love doesn't demand perfection; love "sees" only into your heart.
If you love him and he loves you - then get on with it. Don't let this bloody illness stand in your way. Don't let life pass you by because of your fears.
Winston Churchill didn't say to the Parliament, "Sorry my distinguished colleages, but because of my bipolar disorder, I don't believe that I'm fit to lead our nation into war against the Nazis." TUFF UP GIRL!
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It's not as though it's that simple. I don't think bipolar disorder can be equated with diabetes, and my issue is not whether or not my fiancé loves me. I think that in a partnership, each person has to give to the other, and I'm not sure that I can promise to always be an equal part of this partnership. I'm not sure that I can always be in a place where I can take care of my children. I'm not sure that I'll always be able to fight my suicidal urges, and that I won't one day do something to myself and leave my family alone. And no, I don't know that a child born with bipolar will be "thrilled" to have his/her life. I'm often not thrilled to have mine. It sounds like you're in a good place with your life, but I'm not sure you understand very well where my life is at right now. I think my concerns are valid ones. I don't think my illness and problems can be cured by a simple "tuff up". But thank you for trying.