Hi Everyone,

I'm in need of some impartial, unbias advice. As such I'm going to provide details here as fairly as possible.

My partner and I have recently had a baby, which is a few months old. There were complication at birth and later in the childs life and we've been lucky he has survived, he's going strong and everything is good.

My parents have been quite good up until now and everything was great. Recently though we had a get together, after which my parents were due to take our child home for the night to babysit. My mother was due to drive, as my stepdad had some drinks.

Upon leaving and placing our baby into the car we noticed that my step dad was taking the wheel, we noticed this as they were leaving our driveway - Now at this point he had around 4 beers (in cans), from what I've researched, this would make him almost one full unit over the legal limit, along with that he (IMO) was 'getting tipsy', not full on drunk, but certainly not completely sober.

I instantly rang my mother to query this decision, while they were driving and she claimed he only had 2 cans - I clarified that we had 4 of his empty cans in our possession and she became irritable with me, announcing that I was on hands free and the other passengers in the car (3 other children, excluding our baby, one of them being my smaller brother) and I was frightening them. The conversation ended as they were arriving home, after which I insisted she confirmed they had arrived safely.

My partner and I were furious, not only that this had happened but also at their attitude, having the audacity to be angry with me for questioning their decision in regard to my child.

My mother brought our son home the next day and my partner and I were quite dry and annoyed with her, she then left to a bad reception as we were still angry.

A week passed with no contact and eventually my mother arrived, announcing she had to say her bit. We allowed this and explained as best we could why we were angry, we explained that we understood they would never intentionally harm our baby, but that their decision to allow my stepdad to drive was indeed their fault and was not acceptable, and they would hence have to come to terms that we hold the power to decide what is and isnt acceptable for our son.

The conversation ended in a row, as my mother refused to accept any responsibility for her part in it, tried to paint herself as a by stander as she wasnt driving, her partner was, and ultimately asked if it was so bad why didnt we take our son from them by going to their house as soon as they arrived.

We found this attitude to be ridiculous and she was asked to leave.

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Essentially I just want to know I havent over reacted by having an issue with this? Im not very familiar with alcohol consumption and driving, but due to my research I've found that 4 cans of beer is 0.9 of a unit over the legal limit, and even so the legal limit is not a be all and end all, it is a suggestion that you're advised to avoid anyway.

Anyone got any advice? Thank you.