Welcome, Gordon.

I'm 58, so I qualify as being in your group. I spent 15 years with a man who was one of the world's worst lovers, because he was a good egg in every other way, and I loved him for who he was.

He had no imagination. He was the least sensual person I've ever known: He didn't like massage. Said it just didn't do anything for him. The skin is an erogenous zone. Once he said he didn't like massage, all hope went out of me for ever teaching or reaching that part of him.

Before this man, I was considered quite a sexual woman. But he just plumb drilled it out out of me. He eventually left me for another woman, and I hope it got as boring for her as it was for me, even though that's a mean thing to say.

I tried suggesting interesting things, but he actually made fun of me when I said what I'd like.

I would like to have sex again, but I will never sacrifice my sensuality for stability again, never. So that's the side of the story that I see.