Let me assure everyone that just by telling your T that you appreciate them is enough to make them feel good.

Yes, boundaries can frustrate at times. It's probably because you need them. You aren't used to having any boundaries that are real, and for your own good, but always as a rule and for someone else's "good" instead. That's one reason why, imo, it is so important that Ts remain consistent in their boundaries...to show you (us) that they are safe, that they can be trusted to hold to an agreement regardless.

Now, there are ways to get around those boundaries, if you're creative