Hi

I've read (and still struggle with applying) things like lists of how to ground after being triggered by something but when it comes time and I'm reacting with what later feels like a completely over the top reaction ... I have two questions:

1. Before the reaction are there things we can do to soften the reaction if they are known triggers or at least vaguely known ones ?

2. When you are in the process of reacting how are you meant to be able to slow down enough to even think of applying any grounding technique and be in a state of mind where you can allow yourself to (once negative thinking overtakes a downward spiral the idea of doing something good for oneself can either fade or seem repellant)?