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May 13, 2014, 06:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Perna
Sounds like new dramatic change which will take its own time to grieve, etc.
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Yeah. I just am kind of running out of energy to just hold on an deal. Which is stupid and annoying, because being angry takes up a lot of energy, as gayleggg said, but if I had more energy and tolerance for ickyness a this point I could just push through the "TRAWR I ANGRY I NO LIKE THIS ME SCARY PISSY DINOSAUR WOMAN" phase and come out a half reasonable human being on the other end.
Probably.
Ok maybe.
I might still have the T-Rex feeble arms. I digress.
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Can you may work to deal with your anger/fear/"mess" by talking to/counselling others having problems similar to yours? I know when I talk to other people, don't think so much about my predicaments, it is a little easier for me for some of the time. There's energy and ideas we can get from others that helps me. People who have accepted whatever I'm going through or something I think of as more difficult give me courage and a better feeling of support/backbone? I'm competitive and figure if they did it I probably can do it too.
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That's a good idea, and actually how I've dealt with a lot of other issues and challenges I've had. I'm kind of a "helper" personality [when I'm not being a dinosaur about to wreck up the place]. So I get a lot out of talking to people and helping them figure out things and work on stuff for themselves and improve situations they are having trouble with.
But I feel just... so extended. I feel not as much myself. I need to work on that. I do feel better when i feel like I'm helping.
I'm not sure what capacity I could actually do that in right now, but I could look around. It HAS always been really good for me.
It's something to think about, I just... hadn't been thinking about it. ha.
It's really great feedback, thanks.
I never listen to myself.
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