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Originally Posted by Rayne Selene
My boyfriend just became my fiancé. It's been a long time coming, and I love him more than anything in this world, but I'm panicking. I feel like I'm not a whole person. I'm so deeply depressed so much of the time, and so insane during my manic periods. How can I sentence him to a lifetime of dealing with this? And children? How can I raise children? There are so many periods when I can't even take care of myself. I'm so often extremely suicidal. What if one day I can't control it anymore and I hurt myself? How can I do that to my husband and children? I just don't think I'm fit to be a wife and a mother, and I don't know if he understands what he would be taking on by marrying me. How an I do this to him? I"m so afraid  |
By you asking this question shows me you are a quality, considerate person that I do not find much of nowadays. I think that if he knows what he is getting himself involved in, then as an adult he is capable of making this decision for himself. So li think if you do a good job helping him understand your illness, I think it will work out.
As far as children go, he can also help you make it work out. This does have to be a decision that you make together. You are not alone in this. Everything does not depend on you alone for this to work out. At times he may have the larger burden in regards to children you may have together. But it still can work out.
My opinion FWIW