first of all let me say this, you are not going to die old and alone..calm down, you are just rushing things a bit..you are only 28..you are still very young, relax, this is only one situation gone bad.

it sucks that you jumped in with both feet and wanted to turn it into a relationship right away...now you know why people sometimes say "let's take it slow".

i suppose something happened over the next two days that created a red flag for him & he tried to let you down nicely is my guess. the fact that he said he didn't think you guys' personalities worked out together solidifies my belief that something occurred that perhaps he had been through before and did not wish to experience again so he wisely ran for the hills and tried to let you down nicely with a BS excuse is my take.

If that be the case, better that he end it now before feelings get too strong between the two of you, and i believe this may be what has happened. now keep in mind i am not him, and this is only speculation..but for me it seems plausible( doesn't make it fair for you to drive that far, though) and reasonable as an explanation for his actions.

so keep in mind, the few days you guys spent together was his only time being around you..if you see red flags right away instead of foraging forward( like i usually do and it all goes down in flames) he decided to not continue when he knew there were problems right away( wish i was that smart!)

so you shouldn't feel like an idiot, he probably considered himself trying to protect your feelings and get out before anyone got hurt, so....an easy excuse to avoid a mess would be to say he didn't think the LD relationship would work, which of course you saw right through and forced him to get down to the real reason...the personalities thing, so with that being said something you did/about your personality turned him off..i believe this, he wasn't going to be direct because he probably didn't want to come off as an **hole so he took the easy way out.

so don't worry about your friends getting married/ married already because as you said some of them are divorced with kids..i do not believe a divorce is something you want to go through, if you don't believe me ask anyone that has been through one..they will tell you, it's not a walk in the park i can imagine quite a gut wrenching experience. so be not in a hurry, you are young and ok..take your time and find the right guy for you...you were not the right girl for him & that's ok..better to find out sooner than later! you only invested a few tanks of gas..that is a lot cheaper then fully investing your heart and being devastated yrs down the line.

so no you are not a loser or anything of the sort, you took a shot and you missed..it happens in the dating game..that's just how it is..happens to the best of us, you'll be fine.. hope this helps