Idk what you should do, but I can share what I do...

I used to rely on my bf heavily in the past, I would break, he would fix me. I would break again, rinse repeat cycle...

At the end of the day, he was burnt out and my borderline monster was fed nice and fat. It wasn't pretty for either of us. We actually split up.

When we got back together I decided to keep my shyt seperate from him. It took a long while, probably a year, for us to find a new middle ground (ollld habits, formed 10years before dating, so it was a challenge) yet slowly but surely we did manage to create it.

See I didn't want a caregiver anymore, I mean its not like I'm cripple, and learning to take care of me without his help has been reallly empowering. When I want to deal alone, I tell him I need alone time, and he backs off. When I just want to be held, I communicate that too. But as for what's going on in my head? I rarely tell him unless it affects him in some way.

Granted, we will probably need to adjust this strategy once we're living together, but for now it works for both of us.

So, idk what you should do, but doing what's right for you is rarely wrong...