I'm confused about my parents and brothers (especially parents). Seems like they're lost when they're confronted with hardship and/or try to exercise intimacy within the family. I think something like love is something you have to practice to be good at and I think lots of people really don't know how. My parents express love to a degree but it seems like they're lost: when they get to a certain distant area (when I express extreme hopelessness, doubt) they don't know how to act or what to say. (btw, I'm 50, on SSDI, been struggling last decade. Parents in mid-70's.)

I mean I've never run across my parents having intimate or deep talks with each other which totally baffles me. Lots of strange dynamics going on in my family which I don't think will ever change. Everyone's on a different wavelength. fyi: There is no animosity, dislike, grudges within my family and my middle-class upbringing was very good, as well. (I don't remember my parents ever having intimate, deep, serious talks with their parents, either.)

What's the general consensus? Are most families like this?