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Originally Posted by sweepy62
First my h instills alot of guilt in me , for the most part our marriage has been emotionally abusivive on his part, but we do have good times.
Tonite was not good. I have lots of CSa and physical mistreAtment in my past. Anyway my h sometimes resents I go to therapy.
He is basically overwieght lazy, anyway I also have med problems but I don't let him exert himself too much because he tells me he will die, he decided to do some gardening by himself, he said I took too long napping.
The next night his body ached and he ran a fever of 100 degree farenheight which is low grade. That's tonite , he yells at me and tells me if I have the same fever tomorrow you can kiss your therapy goodbye.
I suggested he drop me of early and go to gp since its not an emergency , but if its high we would go to Er.
The verbal assault was so horrible that I went emotionally numb, I sat in the den, suddenly I felt punished , I felt like a stranger in the house, I could not move, broke out in hives felt like a child, and for a couple of minutes did not recognize my surroundings. What was that?
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Sounds to me like your husband is behaving like an overgrown child and needs to grow up. His out bursts, laziness, and resentment of your therapy is selfish and abusive. All of this will take its toll on you eventually. As for his "medical emergency," it sounds like he wants to manipulate you into dropping therapy.
I'm going to be brutally honest here and suggest that if this guy doesn't get off his fat arse and be a better husband to you, you may want to start planning an exit strategy.
You are saying that your marriage is emotionally abusive, so why are you staying with him? All marriages have good parts, but are they worth this kind of abuse.