It's not as though it's that simple. I don't think bipolar disorder can be equated with diabetes, and my issue is not whether or not my fiancé loves me. I think that in a partnership, each person has to give to the other, and I'm not sure that I can promise to always be an equal part of this partnership. I'm not sure that I can always be in a place where I can take care of my children. I'm not sure that I'll always be able to fight my suicidal urges, and that I won't one day do something to myself and leave my family alone. And no, I don't know that a child born with bipolar will be "thrilled" to have his/her life. I'm often not thrilled to have mine. It sounds like you're in a good place with your life, but I'm not sure you understand very well where my life is at right now. I think my concerns are valid ones. I don't think my illness and problems can be cured by a simple "tuff up". But thank you for trying.