Soccerdad expressed that he's not currently having an affair, he did have one in the past, and he has resumed talking to his old mistress, who is also an old friend.

He's not considering leaving his wife for another woman, he's considering leaving his wife because of his wife.

Soccerdad, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong

Back to your dillemma; if your wife isn't showing any real interest in repairing your marriage, then as much as I'm not a fan of divorce, I implore you to start a happy life all of your own.

I've seen toooo many people stick it out for their kids, and they fk up their kids anyway, because a fake marriage is no example of a healthy relationship. Also it sends the message that a bad marriagge is better than no marriage...Besides kids aren't as stupid as many adults think. They pick up on things, even on the things they can't name...

I personally know atleast 3 couples who found out they're better friends than spouses. Their relationships improved post divorce and their kids were happy their parents were finally getting alone, albeit seperately.