I can not change another person. I can not make them do what I think is important. So I could complain and scream and have a hissy fit, and manipulate till I get my way and get some half hearted help till i calm down...or i could hire someone... Or I can do it myself...

I am choosing to maintain my dignity and my money and do it myself...

I could throw my H out of the house too but guess what I would still have to do it myself... And honestly who would do such a thing right before your kids big day?