WOW!!! THANK YOU both so much. Being able to view needs vs. wants instead of pros and cons is a great new alternative for me going forward and also the explanation of why I will want to move is amazing.. You put in words what was blocked inside my head, things I knew that were blocked by emotions. I can't thank you both enough for helping me think through this. You are amazing :-) Trying2survive will you be my personal life coach? lol.