Erm, this wasn't a one night stand. This was a full on affair and he has not said anything about what he has done wrong or that he is truly sorry. He carried on neglecting his family for another woman and now he is taking a kind of moral high ground by blaming it on her being a bad wife!

And getting back in touch with the affair is not figuring it out, it is doing the same thing to his family again!

We all make mistakes - true. And we all deserved to be understood and forgiven. But he isn't asking why he would do such a bad thing to the Mother of his children and showing any remorse. He isn't trying to work on things and wants nothing more to do with the affair. He isn't struggling to come to terms with the fact his relationship is over and hurting about that. He is talking about what a good husband he is and what a bad wife she is, blaming her for the affair (which he has no right to do) and complaining that she isn't trying hard enough again and how he is back in touch with the affair.

People always deserve to be forgiven for the mistakes that they make. But you also have to face what a ***** person you have been and feel sorry for that as that is also an important part of learning from those mistakes imo.

I am berating him as he is showing none of those things and thinks he is in the right here. I am sorry but if he was slapping her about, then everyone would be outraged at the way he is portraying the situation. What about the emotional beating that an affair causes? I have had both in my life and tbh, there wasn't a lot in it for me.