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Originally Posted by brainhi
You are not him or his wife. We all honestly respond and many times respond and project our experiences onto others. I'm sorry for the things you went through. He can take or leave our opinions.
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It is also about helping people and not just telling them that what they are doing is right!
I have not been a squeaky clean person in my life and if I had been wrapped in cotton wool and allowed to blame everyone else for the things I had done wrong, I would have not been able to put those things right in my life and be a happier, healthier person for that. He deserves to be happy and he deserves to be loved and I am not berating him for leaving. But his attitude towards the Mother of his children that, let's face it, he is about to leave, and the complete lack of remorse of care about any of that is appalling-full stop. He is not the great person he professes in his previous posts, anymore than she is this obese monster that he is making her out to be imo, and he should have some respect, considering he is still in touch with the affair, behind her back!
I am not saying that he doesn't deserve love and support, but he also deserves truth and a mirror held up as well. I have been brutal - yes, and this does touch a personal nerve- yes. But isn't it empathy that drives this place? and not just empathy for the person posting, but empathy for ALL people who have suffered (including his wife)
Where is his, is all I am trying to point out! because it isn't in any of his posts, they simply read as what a great and good person he is and what an awful one she is. That is not a loving or enlightened person imo. And placating that will not help.
I thank you for saying sorry for anything that I went through-it is kind of you xxx