I like to consider all points of view. And, choose not to judge... if possible. As the song goes: "... there's three sides to every story: there's your's; there's mine, and there's the cold hard truth..."
I find the fact that soccerdad is laying this all out asking for input as a sign of good faith. He's trying... making an effort. You wanna look back knowing you had integrity... I mean, give the guy some credit for entertaining our opinions... and laying his world out as best he can.
I give you credit for asking for help. I'm funny that way, maybe.