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933127 · 08:12 AM

My sister met his boyfriend at a local community college around 2010. Around 2012 my sister introduced her boyfriend to the family. His appearance was not something I liked. He had a nose ring, an array of tattoos on both arms, and large black stud earrings. He pretty much looked like one of those hipsters/goths type of guys. During dinner he was very polite. My parents wanted to know a little bit about him. He told us what high school he went to. Went to community college and met my sister and got his associates in photography. Couldn’t find a job with his associates and decided to go to hair/salon school. However he recently dropped out of hair school. He’s hoping to provide for himself financially by creating his own band or opening his own music studio. Here were my worries. He seemed to have unrealistic optimism that he is going to make it big one day with a heavy metal band or music studio. Second the high school he went to is a private school where most of the students who go there are from wealthy prestigious families. However it is also a school parents in our area send their kids to if they have been expelled from the public school system for bad/troubled behavior.

Many weeks after the dinner invitation he sends me a facebook request and I accepted it. I examined his facebook profile and I did not like what I saw. He had several pictures of himself sticking out his middle finger. He had several pictures of himself fooling around too much with his friends. The videos he had also were not something that pleased me.

In one video he sneaks behind one of his friend who is playing the guitar. He hunches over, forms a c shape with his right hand and pretends to be stroking his imaginary erect penis. He then rubs his “semen” onto his friend’s hair and smirks to the camera.

In second video one of his friend is playing his guitar once again. He appears out of nowhere and starts walking in a handicapped manner and laughing like a maniac. He was acting as if he was someone with Down syndrome or some form of mental retardation. In a third one he has a mannequin head and is thrusting it towards and away from his crotch as if he is getting oral sex.

In a fourth video he is doing the Russian wood pecker prank/stunt with his two other friends. One of his friends is in the middle between him and his other friend. He holds up his middle friend’s legs. During the prank he let go his legs and lets him fall. He then pins his fallen friend to the ground and sits on him in a 69er sex position. Here is what the Russian wood pecker prank looks like:

. This is a demo of three other people of how it works and what it looks like, he is not in this video.

I checked his record on the local police arrest and ticket database. He has several infractions and misdemeanors. He has lots of speeding tickets. He’s got charged for having too many in front seat. He also has misdemeanors such as obstruction of police justice w/o threat/force, driving with suspended license (twice), and DWI: 1st offense. All of them ranging from 2009-2013

Around August 2013 my sister and her boyfriend left together and moved to Oregon. I am disappointed at my parents for approving/allowing my sister to go with him. His videos and checkered record proves that his polite demeanor was all an act. He is immature and seems to have behavioral problems. He was clearly another one of those troubled kids that got send to that high school by his parents due to expulsion from the public school system in our area.

I think he is a bad influence on my sister. What should I do? Do any of you feel my judgment on my sister’s boyfriend is correct? I want my sister to leave him and find someone better. I honestly don’t understand what my sister sees in him.