he judges his wife for all to read and not himself. He lays out his wife's personal details for all to read and tells us what a great person he is - and that is the cold hard truth.

He is asking for opinion and he is getting mine. I care for him and want him to be happy and if I had a way to help him I would. I do not believe that way is telling him that he doesn't have to face up to how he is being and have respect for his wife and actually try and feel her pain and take responsibility for betraying his family.

I am trying to help and I have got integrity. To tell him that I think he is right to talk about her in that way and not truly feel broken and disgusted with what he has done, compromises my integrity quite frankly. We all have to face our shadow and it is horrible to have to do but...

I I can't help but feel desperately sorry for her and the mess he leaves behind, she didn't deserve to have her husband do that! She maybe doesn't deserve the relationship and he has every right to leave, but should not have done that and is still in touch with the affair and still blaming her for that. And actually gave the affair credit for sending him back to his wife to make it work and not the fact that he has made his wife suffer that humiliation! Instead he is on here calling her names! shocking and unfair

I am not saying he should be punished or pay any dues or anything like that, people do bad things and make mistakes, but feeling sad and sorry and not slagging his wife off would be the right thing to do imo. He is gonna leave her for another woman and he knows it, the least he can do is be kind about her before he ruins her life!

When is he going to be sorry?

Maybe a bloke being a prick has touched a nerve with me and I am being brutal because of that. But it doesn't come from and place of hatred, it comes from a place of understanding. Sometimes it is hard to take full responsibility for something, and sometimes taking some would help!