But I could put a whole different slant on that and the fact that he doesn't make an effort and she shouldn't have to ask him to all the time. If he has been giving all his time to another woman, then he clearly hasn't done, has he?

He claimed he was upset on his wedding day about this other woman! He got it wrong and married the wrong woman and that is what he knows, trying to justify that by talking down the Mother of his children is low imo.

Plus, he is back in touch with the affair and NOT doing the right thing. He takes it out of the arena on the rights and wrongs in their marriage and continues to disrespect his wife.

He made a mistake and messed up lives. He should have ended things with his wife properly and then started something new-that is honourable. He should feel bad about that and bad that he wasn't able to make her happy (as she clearly doesn't sound it) He is claiming that he has done the right thing, when that is far from the right thing to do, in any marriage.

I am sorry but facing up to that and being sorry is the road to salvation imo