I don't find perfection in what most people think even if she isn't stellar or the prettiest or even the most popular it's ok with me. The fact she exists on a standard basis is good enough, also being poly it's the same. I don't care bout favorites yeah I may ask one girl to something more than the other not as in a favorite thing, but as my choice, but I want the ladies I'm in the relationship with as a basic rule is communication and speak up I'm listening. I want to be called out I want to do this right. I get so scared because of it happening before where I'm forced down to be expected to things for her and it's my fault for not speaking up in the very beginning and I've not made that mistake since my last 8 failed relationships. I don't want them to feel inferior I don't want to feel inferior. I prefer it naturally grow, but please don't be disrespectful. I want like minded women who appreciate me and my existence and don't ask me to be anything but there for them. That's it