Hello everyone. I'm new. Was diagnosed as bpd last year, but haven't gotten much professional help. On occasion I will have great clarity into the nature of my problem and the people I have hurt. The pain is so great that I don't know how to deal with it other than shutting off, and when I shut off I have black and white thinking, don't acknowledge my wrongs, and do impulsive things and hurt the people I love. What is a healthy way to cope before I get into therapy? I have practically ruined my family life. I don't want to hurt the people I love anymore.